Throughout history, Women have always been held to unrealistically high beauty standards. Let’s go back to the 2000’s, the beauty standard back then was thin, and many preferred women with bigger chests. However, if we look at the beauty standards now, most women are familiar with the term “slim thicc”. While being held to the 2000s beauty standards was hard, now imagine today’s beauty standards. Men now idealize women with small waists, big chests, big hips, and skinny everywhere else. This body standard is nearly impossible to obtain, the only way to ever really have it was through plastic surgeries, more specifically BBL’s. To be constantly compared to TikTok stars, OnlyFans models, and celebrities, who usually conceal their plastic surgery, trying to pass it off as real, no wonder why women feel the need to be validated.
This drastically impacts many young women. Many dream of better figures, and try crazy diets and hacks—wearing corsets to sleep to make their waist smaller—-despite achieving these goals they still have no self-confidence due to the never-ending cycles of low self-esteem. The reason beautiful women can date such ugly men is because they have no inner self-confidence due to harsh beauty standards. Women judge themselves much more critically than men, leading us to think worse of ourselves. Men complain about having hard beauty standards, but women are much more accepting of men. A man could have a face that’s objectively a 4/10, but if he’s 6’2 then he’s automatically 8/10. Women are also less harsh when it comes to body standards. They can be very skinny men, dad-bods, or muscular.
I’m tired of seeing beautiful women with men who don’t deserve them. Sometimes the guy can be uglier but still treat you sweetly and I understand staying in that relationship. I’m not saying to only care about looks when it comes to relationships. Just remember, don’t stay in a relationship because you think you can’t be with anyone better or are afraid to be alone. Everyone deserves someone they find beautiful- and don’t have to convince themselves- and treats them well. But if you are gonna get treated badly, at least be treated badly by a gorgeous man.