Focus on the POSITIVE

Happiness is, in my opinion, one of the hardest qualities to have. It’s exhausting, emotionally draining and requires time, energy and patience. Being happy, genuinely happy takes time and is an investment. It is so much easier to feel sorry for yourself, speak negatively to and about yourself and bring people down than to do the opposite. So when I get the question “Why are you so happy amidst all this chaos?” this is my answer.

  1. Do not focus your energy on the negative.

 A whole day could be consumed by the fact that you bombed your chemistry test, but it doesn’t have to! You could have also aced your hard math final, your foreign language speaking assessment and your English essay, but this chem test ruined your day. Think of the possibilities for next time; make a goal to improve and stick to it it. My best advice is to move on and keep doing the best you can.

  1. Surround yourself with supportive people.

I know that when I am having a horrible day, all I want to do is be alone, but I have learned that it is beneficial for me to talk over my problems with my close friends. We share the same values and beliefs and we trust each other with everything. If and when you find these people that you can trust, keep them at all costs. They are so important in your life. Having a support group makes you open up your mind and helps you get out of the negativity.

  1. Listen to good music.

Alright, so maybe you don’t want to share what is going on with your friends. Turn to some good music, the kind that makes you contemplate life a little bit. That sad music that actually makes the tears you have been holding back turn into waterworks—not that I am speaking from experience or anything…. Crying is good for you and is healthy. But you have to combat the sad music with upbeat fun ones. You can’t be happy if your emotions aren’t in check. ALWAYS play a song that gives off good vibes, it will boost your mood and your energy.  My personal favorites are the throwback songs from the 2008-2010 time frame, with artists like Lady Gaga, Owl City, (the old) Miley Cyrus, and so many more good artists.

  1.  Search for the positives.

When you are just so frustrated that it seems that there is no way anything could ever go right for you or get better, think again. I like to play this little game where I find at least one good thing that results from whatever negative thing just happened.

  1. Do what you love!

Prioritize yourself sometimes! Self-love is so important in this day and age. Take the time to do something you actually want to do, even if it’s only for 30 minutes. That could be calling your best friend, reading that book you’ve always wanted, finally jumping on the bandwagon and finally getting the chance to watch Stranger Things or The Office. It’s okay to take a break and do something for fun. You deserve it and it will help boost your mood because you’re taking the time to do what you love.